My Body Said What?! ( Guest Writer Body Language Coach, RB Kelly)
Intro From Sharon: Ok, I admit it, I changed the title because that's how I felt when I took my first coaching session with RB... RB's graphics are in the rest of the post . After spending an hour with her, I knew I had to tell the world about some of the messages we are sending out, so she so kindly wrote this article for us. Follow her at therbkelly
WHAT’S YOUR BILLBOARD SAY?
By guest author RB Kelly, Certified Body Language Speaker & Coach
Some women have a billboard floating over their heads that flashes the words, “I am powerless and weak. Disrespect and ignore and interrupt me, because I don’t deserve to be here.”
Men sometimes have this billboard too, but women are far more likely than men to carry it around.
This billboard is made up of the nonverbal messages that you send. Nonverbal communication comprises between 60 and 93% of all communication. That nonverbal communication is your body language, your voice tone, and your ornaments, but today we are talking about body language, and more specifically, posing. Posing is how much space you take up, or how much ‘territory’ you claim.
Work with me here. I want you to take your legs and press them as close together as you can. Then press your arms to your sides and clasp your hands in front of you. Bring your shoulders up towards your ears, and tuck your chin so your face is pointed down. This is as extreme as low-power body language gets. Isn’t it awful? If you ever find yourself hunching like this, or shrinking so your elbows touch your body—stop.
On the other end of the spectrum, you know that guy who sprawls out around the conference table and takes up 3 chairs. He’s taking up as much space as possible, and his billboard says “cocky, careless jerk.” Don’t pose like him, either.
The best posing is somewhere between those extremes, like in the photo below. Claim your space with confidence, and get rid of that billboard forever.
To uncover a crystal-clear vision of what successful body language looks like for you and discover what other subconscious signals are sabotaging your success, you can visit awkwardtoawesome, or email me at email@example.com.
All The Best,